The Year I Became a Mom
12 Lessons in 12 Months
One year ago, I became a mom to my daughter Sofia and in the process, I became a new version of myself. These are 12 of the greatest lessons I have learned over the past 12 months of my first year of motherhood.
There is always more in you
Even on the nights I felt completely empty, I somehow found strength I didn’t know existed. Motherhood showed me how deep you can go when you have to.
I didn’t slow down - I became clear
I worried a baby would dim my ambition, instead, she sharpened it. Less time forced me to focus on what truly mattered.
This is just a season
I grieved the version of me who had endless time. Slowly, I realized nothing is lost, it’s just rearranged, and this season won’t last forever.
Instinct is real
The world is loud with opinions but mom instincts are a real thing, trust them.
The last time is quiet
The last night feed, the last burp cloth, the last little habit you don’t even notice, one day it’s gone and you almost miss it.
Every goodbye is wrapped in a hello
Each milestone breaks me a little, I miss who she was yesterday, even as I fall in love with who she is today.
Surrender is the lesson
Schedules bend, plans dissolve, control softens, and in that letting go, I found peace I didn’t know I needed.
Your energy matters
She feels what I carry. My calm settles her, my tension touches her, everything I bring into a room becomes the world she grows in.
A love that rewrites you
You hear about this love, but you don’t truly understand until your heart is walking around outside of your body.
You can be both
You can be a driven entrepreneur and a present mom at the same time. I want Sofia to see that she doesn’t have to choose between a career and being a mother, both can coexist and both can thrive.
What you don’t fix, your kids inherit
The last few years of deep work on myself, therapy, journaling, reflection, self growth, prepared me for her. The version of me Sofia has now is so much better.
You learn to love yourself
Motherhood makes you see yourself in a new light. The small criticisms I once had for myself? They become traits I know I’ll see in her, and love them. Bringing her into this world taught me to celebrate myself, to be proud of the woman I am, and to speak to myself with more kindness.
One year of her, one year of growth, one year of becoming. I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
